Love and Marriage


Love is basically not something dirty, because the defilement and sanctity of something (in this case love) depends on the frame. There is love framed with something sacred and halal but there is also one framed with something dirty and haram. And love is also not just a physical attraction. Physical attraction is only one of the beginnings or beginnings of love, and that's just the trigger, but not the peak. And to love beauty is already a human fitrah. The love for someone in addition to being seen from the beauty of form and likeness must also be accompanied or see the beauty of personality with good morals. The Prophet said: 

"Marry a woman for four things, because of her wealth, because of her descendants, because of her beauty, because of her religion. However, you should put religious women first, for it will benefit you." (HR. Bukhari-Muslim)

The Prophet said,
"Whoever marries a woman because of her position, Allah will not increase her height unless she will immerse her in delinquency. Whoever marries a woman because of his nasab, allah will not increase his position unless he plunges him into humiliation. Whoever marries a woman is nothing but because he wants to keep his eyes, keep his, or wants to pour out his love, Allah will bless him because of that woman, and Allah bless her because of her. (HR. Thabrani)

The feeling of love is really a fitrah. At first the feeling of love can be likened to the seedlings of a flower. In order for these seeds to grow well and fertile, they must be cared for, maintained, nurtured and watered. And in order for the flower to grow beautifully and perfectly, it must be disah kan with the name ijab qabul. Because if not, a variety of wild plants, weeds and even pests will accompany the growth of the flower, maybe even damage, reduce its beauty, and may even be able to make the flower die.

Islam is a religion of fitrah that is why Islam does not shackle human feelings. Islam does not deny the growing feelings of love in a human being. But Islam teaches people to keep those feelings of love. It is guarded, cared for and protected from all insults and anything that defiles it. Islam cleanses and directs feelings of love and teaches that before marriage must be clean from illegal relationships.

And for people who love each other marriage is something that should be their main goal. Because if it is not framed in the institution of marriage, it is feared that love will actually plunge man into the valley of sin and the abyss of efficacy.

Marriage is a very appropriate remedy for two human children who love each other in order to avoid sin and sin. Marriage is a sacred covenant that makes God (SWT) his first man. If it is based on holy intentions, then nothing exceeds this bond. And this is the culmination of all the pleasures of love where two people who love each other choose to live together and promise to love each other, love each other, respect and share life both joy and sorrow.